I know how difficult it can be to maintain long distance relationship. That’s why I’d love to share with you my top 5 tips to keep that spark.
1. Use Sex Toys for Long Distance Relationships
Sex toys are super useful when you’re not in the same place with your partner!
Not only can you learn new things about your partner, but you can also use the tools to help you build intimacy and create more closeness…
Even if you’re a long distance couple, and you live 200 miles away, it’s totally normal to have a sex life when you’re not together.
As long as you’re communicating about your feelings, and sharing them with each other, it’s completely normal.
Sometimes, you just need some space to figure out your feelings, without the distractions of having sex with your partner.
How can you be intimate when you’re far away?
HERE are some great sex toy brands that can help.
But not all sex toys are created equal, so don’t just pick something from the box, you’ve got to find the best sex toys for long distance relationships that work for you!
2. Establish a Solid Friendship First!
Let’s face it, if a friendship is getting stale, we’ll usually find a way to pull ourselves away from it.
Sometimes, people drift apart due to long distance.
It doesn’t matter how amazing the friendship is, if the two people aren’t meeting in person, the connection can become lost and they might lose contact.
It’s important to establish a friendship first before you ask them to “ Skype from the other side of the world ”
For many people, their social media feeds or friendship groups are their main way of keeping up with others.
If your friend doesn’t post on a regular basis, that’s a real indication that their friendship is on the rocks.
Over time, we make friends with all sorts of people, on all sorts of social media platforms.
On the other hand, sometimes our best friends are people we’ve met in person.
That’s why it’s important to focus on your long distance friendship before asking them to get in touch via social media or through Skype.
3. Send Letters, Send Texts and Stay in Touch with Lots of Photos!
One of the easiest ways to maintain a friendship when you don’t see your friends in person is to keep in touch.
As a long distance friend, it can be hard to stay in touch when you don’t live in the same country, especially when you’re busy with work and family.
That’s why you should take the time to keep in touch by sending letters or notes.
Because they feel so real and personal, letters always make you feel closer to someone.
Plus, they make great mementos that you can keep forever.
If your friend doesn’t send you letters, why not write one for them?
Of course, you’ll need to be creative, but that’s what makes it so much fun!
You can also buy mementos or gift cards that can be shared when you see each other again.
4. Be Patient
In reality, the way people choose to contact each other has very little to do with the time difference or the distance.
People who live far away usually choose to stay connected by text or email.
But while these communication methods are certainly not a replacement for physical contact, they do the trick to keeping the relationship alive!
So don’t lose hope!
It may take time, but the good news is, those people who send long, heartfelt letters usually do make it back in the end.
5. Don’t assume it’s not working
When things are going well and you feel like your long distance friendship is moving in the right direction, it’s natural to think “Ah, why can’t it work out for me too?”
But just because you haven’t heard from your long distance friend in a while, doesn’t mean the friendship is over.
It’s important to stop your thinking and take a deep breath.
If you’re feeling like you want to reach out, there’s always the possibility that you’ll just get a reply, like this story below…
… Or they’ll say something on social media and you’ll find a way to get in contact again…
… Or you’ll do something special that will make them really think about you.
I’m not saying that your friendship will be easy – I know it can be hard.
There will be arguments and tensions. It can be lonely. And at times, you may wonder if it’s worth the effort.
But it’s not your friend’s fault!
They’re living their lives too, and like you, they get busy, sometimes feeling overwhelmed by the things that happen in their day.
They may miss you, but because they’re already busy, it’s hard to find time to write a letter or to put their phone on silent for a few minutes.
Maybe you just need to give them a break!
6. Send your best friend a letter to express how much you care
I remember one of the first letters I ever sent my best friend, and it changed our relationship forever!
When I was a teenager, I was struggling to understand my sexuality and would regularly write my best friend about my doubts and insecurities.
I never wrote about my feelings in person.
I’d never experienced true love before, and I was terrified of what the response might be.
I was afraid to lose her as my best friend if I spoke to her about my feelings.
My first letter to her made me realize how much my friend understood and cared for me, and it sparked something within me.
I’ve since sent her a few more letters to tell her how much I care for her.
Most recently, I sent her a letter to tell her about my dog Harry, who was recently diagnosed with cancer.
My message said that I loved her and would always support her, no matter what.
I was met with a lovely reply which I treasure. I’m now even closer to my best friend.
Sometimes we need to write our best friends and tell them how much we love them.
Why?
Because in doing this, we’re showing that we actually DO care!
There’s no better way to build a friendship.
Did you know?
Your best friend may be your soul mate.
You need to tell them how much you care for them.
Don’t take “being apart” for granted.
Send them a love letter to show them how much you care!
What would YOU write a love letter to your best friend?